The Supreme Religious Authority warns of the growing phenomenon of divorce in Iraqi society.
The Supreme Religious Authority warns of the growing phenomenon of divorce in a frightening way in the Iraqi society, demanding civil society organizations and personalities in the community, such as orators, heads of tribes and intellectuals to educate the community on the construction of the family and maintain of its cohesion, indicating that the phenomenon of divorce is a problem that has worsened in our society and need more effort.
These were the important points stated in the second sermon of the Friday prayer, which was held in the holy shrine of Imam al-Hussayn (peace be upon him) on Friday 27th of Jumada Thaniya 1439 AH corresponding to March 16, 2018, and led by His Eminence Sayed Ahmad Al-Safi, in which he stated:
Brethren! In this sermon, I would like to talk about a problem that has worsened in our society, namely, the problem of divorce, which is a social situation that requires us to make more effort from everybody. You know that the religion has urged on building a family, which is the nucleus of the society, by shedding the light on most of the life details within the family, starting by the behavior and ethics to even what kind of name should we chose for our children.
I would like you to pay attention as I am not talking about a political or economic matter but about our own current situation, because the society bears the responsibility of the negative impacts of some of wrong and weird ideas. The nucleus of our society [the family] begins to crack and collapse for many reasons, such as the bad choice or the choice based on the greed of either the wife or the husband, and once he/ she reached his/her goal, he/she asks for divorce. So there is no true, solid and sound basis for building this relationship! Love and mercy do not exist, and this couple will try not to have children from the start because they believe that this project is a temporary one.
Unfortunately, the figures and statistics about divorce are frightening. And one of the main reasons of this situation, is the absence of the role of the father in the family, he is mostly outside the house, and when he enters, he is busy and does give no time to his wife and children, who should be the most important persons in his life. But the father is constantly absent or absent-minded, not showing no care or attention to his wife or his children, he is subsequently not showing no love to the family and no respect to the holy bond [marriage].
Among the causes of the divorce, is that the people are preoccupied by committing sins, so one or both spouses have no respect to the religion teachings and divorce for them is banal matter, as they drowned in the sea of sins, nothing matters for them. My advice for everyone is to continuously read the supplications of our Holy Imams (peace be upon them) such as the supplication of Abi Hamza Thamali, in which the Imam (peace be upon him) teaches us how to deal with our faults and sins.
The other problem in this situation that there is no more respect to the rule of sending a wise person from both families to find a solution for the couple. I know that the divorce is the best solution in some situations, but most of the existing problems between couples are only formal ones. Therefore, it is very important to resolve and reform the problems as the divorce is a very serious issue.
Let's work to create a general atmosphere for the building of families and the reform of the interrelationship. The divorce is a frightening phenomenon and one may resort to divorce only when there is no other solution. All of us should work together in this sense: the respected father, the elder brother, the dear mother, all of them have to try their best to mediate to resolve the couple problems with love, harmony, compassion and reform solutions, away from trivial reasons that encourage for the separation.
This problem is bigger than being a personal matter, we have to read between the lines. What are these high dowries? What is this greed? This is your daughter not a business project through which you seek to earn more money! Instead of educating well your daughters, and teaching them the life matters, you are behaving like you are selling them?!!!
My brothers, men, women, civil society organizations and the official and semi-official institutions, each of us, from his position, has to work for the education on the importance of the family, to mediate between couples to resolve their problems, try to consolidate the family to protect the children from loss. Hence, each of us, is responsible, whether you are a head of tribe, an orator, a social actor, civil society organization, or else. All of us have to educate people on how a family should be! Teach them to not be busy with unimportant matters that may lead their family to break down. As our society is in dire need of a strong family structure.
We ask the Almighty Allah by the intercession of the most beloved creation to Him; Mohammad and Ahl al-Bayt to help us to build firmly our families. May Allah forgive the believers, men and women, and make them gather in sound believing houses! O Most Merciful! And, the latest of our prayers is; praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds, and Prayers and Allah's Peace be upon Mohammad and his pure and virtuous lineage.